Polyamory As Self-Determination

A session at Transcending Boundaries Conference 2012

  • Cathy Smiler
  • Barry Smiler

Saturday 27th October, 2012

2:30pm to 3:45pm (EST)

Polyamory isn't about how many relationships are active at any moment, and not at all about sex. Rather, it's about knowing that each person has the right to choose whatever sexual/relationship structure works best for that person (in honest communication with all other stakeholders). So polyamory is really about self-determination: the right to live your own life your own way. But so are lots of things. Women's rights, LGBT struggles, issues around race and class, and much more. Thus, "there's no such thing as polyamory." That is, polyamory isn't a separate thing, but rather an example or special case of something much larger: self-determination, living your own life your own way. By reframing polyamory to highlight this classic American ideal, we: tap into a solid positive mindset about all this; avoid the distracting question of sex and who does what with who (because in this framing it has no bearing); and create openings to connect with other movements dealing with self-determination issues in their own communities. All this helps create broader, less charged, and more productive conversations.

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Time 2:30pm3:45pm EST

Date Sat 27th October 2012

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